Bpyboy
10-14-2003, 05:43 PM
I'd run screaming from a sponsor that said any of those things, as they have
nothing to do with recovery.
I DID find that it was easier to have a different image of myself when I lost
some of those things (about 50 pounds of hair, and an old, ratty jeep), but
nobody suggested it. Sort of just "taking out the trash", in my own mind.
(who was it who said that you view yourself the way you THINK people view you?
I read it in a psych class somewhere, well, if I didn't LOOK like a drunken
deadhead, maybe I wouldn't feel like one either?)
My sponsor is a cool old timer, who has at least 30 years on me, and he didn't
say a word about any of it.
What he DOES offer is support and guidance when I need it, and suggestions as
to what helps. And as a man who has been sober for about 20 years, i'm sort of
at a loss to find anything wrong with anything that he does say. It worked for
him, and I can only assume it's a viable route for me too.
nothing to do with recovery.
I DID find that it was easier to have a different image of myself when I lost
some of those things (about 50 pounds of hair, and an old, ratty jeep), but
nobody suggested it. Sort of just "taking out the trash", in my own mind.
(who was it who said that you view yourself the way you THINK people view you?
I read it in a psych class somewhere, well, if I didn't LOOK like a drunken
deadhead, maybe I wouldn't feel like one either?)
My sponsor is a cool old timer, who has at least 30 years on me, and he didn't
say a word about any of it.
What he DOES offer is support and guidance when I need it, and suggestions as
to what helps. And as a man who has been sober for about 20 years, i'm sort of
at a loss to find anything wrong with anything that he does say. It worked for
him, and I can only assume it's a viable route for me too.