act as if!

[rosie read and post]

What does it mean to act "as if? When we feel angry and unforgiving, it
means we act as if we forgave someone who stepped on our toes, or
took our parking place, or ruined our paintbrush; when we feel cold and
self-pitying, it means to act as if we were warmly interested in the
child
or friend or spouse who has something to tell us. It can be a wonderful
exercise. If we really give ourselves to the performance, we can act as
if, and the mood we imitate becomes real.

Oscars will never be given for acting as if, but the rewards are far
more
useful. Acting as if can salvage a bad day;

it can repair or prevent a quarrel. Act as if we didn't have a headache,
and often the headache disappears. Act as if we weren't in a hurry and
often we will have time for everything.

When we were small, adults said to us, "Don't make a face or you'll
freeze that way." Now that we're grown, we can learn how to imitate,
flexibly, what we want. Instead of freezing into negative postures, we
reach for agreeable ones - and so often "as if" becomes "as is."

Today I shall practice acting as if I were serene; perhaps it will grow
into a habit.

(The Promise of a New Day by Karen Casey)

[Craig S.]

"rosie read and post" <readandpostREMOVE@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> What does it mean to "act as if?"

It means to deny your true feelings. It means to be dishonest. It means to
embrace disingenuousness.

[rosie read and post]

--
read and post daily, it works!
rosie

i like your christ, I do not like your christians, your christians
are so unlike your christ.
..............................................gand hi




"Craig S." <cspurlocktakethisout@takethisoutmtneer.net> wrote in message
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>
> > What does it mean to "act as if?"
>
> It means to deny your true feelings. It means to be dishonest. It
means to
> embrace disingenuousness.
>
>
>
>


imo,acting as if, doesn't mean denying my feelings at
all...................
it acknowledges that i don't like my feelings, and i want them to
change!
its a great tool and it works!

[Virtualoso]

In article <Lelgb.684$Eo2.536@newsread2.news.atl.earthlink.net >, Craig
S. <cspurlocktakethisout@takethisoutmtneer.net> wrote:

> "rosie read and post" <readandpostREMOVE@yahoo.com> wrote in message
> news:Xldgb.10240$pg7.9450@twister.rdc-kc.rr.com...
>
> > What does it mean to "act as if?"
>
> It means to deny your true feelings. It means to be dishonest. It means to
> embrace disingenuousness.

Only if that's what you're doing with it.

[debs]

off topic, but

This is a tool I used to get me through the trauma of child sex abuse.

Once I had done the bit of confronting my abuser I had to find a way to get
on with my life. I acted as if I had forgiven my abuser. It was difficult
and in no way did I deny my feelings or bury my head in the sand. But for
my own sanity and peace of mind I had to find a way of moving on from being
a victim to being a survivor.

With a lot of work the technique worked. Living as a victim was not
enabling me to move forward. As a survivor who was moving towards
forgivness I was enabled to regain the power I had lost in the past.

IMHO forgiveness is not being weak but it gains you power. And as long as
that power is not misused it is good.

debs

--
Earth is the insane asylum for the universe.
"rosie read and post" <readandpostREMOVE@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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>
>
> --
> read and post daily, it works!
> rosie
>
> i like your christ, I do not like your christians, your christians
> are so unlike your christ.
> .............................................gandh i
>
>
>
>
> "Craig S." <cspurlocktakethisout@takethisoutmtneer.net> wrote in message
> news:Lelgb.684$Eo2.536@newsread2.news.atl.earthlin k.net...
> >
> > > What does it mean to "act as if?"
> >
> > It means to deny your true feelings. It means to be dishonest. It
> means to
> > embrace disingenuousness.
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
>
> imo,acting as if, doesn't mean denying my feelings at
> all...................
> it acknowledges that i don't like my feelings, and i want them to
> change!
> its a great tool and it works!
>
>

[Bobby L.]

"debs" <debs172@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:blu10u$lbr$1@sparta.btinternet.com...
> off topic, but
>
> This is a tool I used to get me through the trauma of child sex abuse.
>
> Once I had done the bit of confronting my abuser I had to find a way to
get
> on with my life. I acted as if I had forgiven my abuser. It was
difficult
> and in no way did I deny my feelings or bury my head in the sand. But for
> my own sanity and peace of mind I had to find a way of moving on from
being
> a victim to being a survivor.
>
> With a lot of work the technique worked. Living as a victim was not
> enabling me to move forward. As a survivor who was moving towards
> forgivness I was enabled to regain the power I had lost in the past.
>
> IMHO forgiveness is not being weak but it gains you power. And as long as
> that power is not misused it is good.
>
> debs
>

Forgiveness is for the forgiver...

Bobby L

[Bobby L.]

Somewhere in proverbs I believe it says something like "act as if you have
faith, and faith will be given to you."

It is more along the same lines as "train the body and the mind will
follow." It's not deception -- of yourself or of another. It means to
behave in the manner of those who are getting sober and you may perhaps find
your own sobriety along the way.

Bobby L


"Craig S." <cspurlocktakethisout@takethisoutmtneer.net> wrote in message
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> "rosie read and post" <readandpostREMOVE@yahoo.com> wrote in message
> news:Xldgb.10240$pg7.9450@twister.rdc-kc.rr.com...
>
> > What does it mean to "act as if?"
>
> It means to deny your true feelings. It means to be dishonest. It means
to
> embrace disingenuousness.
>
>
>
>