Re: AA view of lapses ?

[Dan Ballance]

On Mon, 23 Jun 2003 02:51:33 GMT, Blue Moon <mfoco@hotmail.com> wrote:

>Considering that the requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop
>drinking, if you don't display that desire then you'll probably not
>feel you "fit in" with the crowd. The AA program is abstinence-based,
>rather than moderation-based or occasional-drinkie-session-based.

this is a real problem for me. i have a very strong desire to stop
drinking for a month or so at a time - and I do find some meetings
very useful for this.

But, who knows, it's quite likely I suppose, evetually i'll probably
relapse big time and then i'll be able to sign up for real. Cwazee
world, innit ;-)

[Blue Moon]

On Tue, 24 Jun 2003 16:44:05 +0100, Dan Ballance
<DanBallance@noSpamexcite.com> wrote:

>On Mon, 23 Jun 2003 02:51:33 GMT, Blue Moon <mfoco@hotmail.com> wrote:
>
>>Considering that the requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop
>>drinking, if you don't display that desire then you'll probably not
>>feel you "fit in" with the crowd. The AA program is abstinence-based,
>>rather than moderation-based or occasional-drinkie-session-based.
>
>this is a real problem for me. i have a very strong desire to stop
>drinking for a month or so at a time - and I do find some meetings
>very useful for this.
>
>But, who knows, it's quite likely I suppose, evetually i'll probably
>relapse big time and then i'll be able to sign up for real. Cwazee
>world, innit ;-)

I do know some people in AA who stop for a time, then relapse (some of
them spectacularly). A few have been going to AA for 10 or more
years. So you're not alone. I just don't understand why they keep
coming to AA, but that's my problem, not theirs (nor yours) :)

--
Blue Moon

[Dan Ballance]

On Thu, 26 Jun 2003 03:12:02 GMT, Blue Moon <mfoco@hotmail.com> wrote:

> I just don't understand why they keep
>coming to AA,

my guess is their is very little alternative support around. If you
want to attend a group that supports each other with some form of
controlled drinking - where you help each other through the dry times
- I don't think there are many places to go... and maybe thats because
it doesn't work!

cheers, dan