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"trying to set your whole life in order at once." - As Bill Sees It,
page 308
I think it a good idea to share with you one of the benefits that I am
getting from remembering that it is not necessary for me to try to get
sorted by the end of any today all the tasks that have arisen as a
result of my husband's death.
The old me - ie the me who did not know AA's teachings - by now, could
be finding as a good excuse for thinking "I don't want to do all this
work" and therefore not doing anything, the enormous amount of work
that has to be done in order to secure probate to execute my husband's
Will and to sort out my finances and home; the decisions that I have
to take; the occasional frustrations that I have felt when something
has gone awry; the pain I suffer each time I do something which
results in me losing another visible sign of my husband (eg taking his
good clothes to a charity shop, closing his bank accounts, having his
name removed from our joint account). Now, what good would me not
doing anything that relates to what has to be done do me ? Would it
bring my husband back ? No. Will it bring me benefits for my future ?
Probably not. Could delaying doing this work create problems for me in
the future ? Probably, it would.
Thankfully, the new me - ie the me who tries to live life according to
AA's teachings - sees the sense in: attempting to each day do a few of
the tasks that need and ought to be done; accepting that if, despite
my best efforts to get a task done I can't then there's always another
today in which I can try to get it done, and remembering that if I
find myself getting angry or frustrated for example, then is a good
time, probably, to stop whatever it is I'm doing and switch to
something that could enable me to calm down. From experience, I've
learnt that when I'm feeling calm I'm often able to see what the next
"right thing for me to do" is.
The new me is often each today able to go to bed at night feeling
pleased with what I have today achieved. The old me could at this time
in my life be going to bed worrying about what has yet to be done.
Thinking about my achievements may result in me getting a decent
night's sleep and for that I am always grateful :^)
Sheenah/JB.
--
"Truth is generally the best vindication against slander" Abraham
Lincoln
rosie readandpost
02-26-2005, 08:56 AM
glad to read that you are drawing on the examples set forth in
AA.....................that ODAAT thing really works, doesn't it?
:)
--
"JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
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: "trying to set your whole life in order at once." - As Bill Sees
It,
: page 308
:
: I think it a good idea to share with you one of the benefits that
I am
: getting from remembering that it is not necessary for me to try to
get
: sorted by the end of any today all the tasks that have arisen as a
: result of my husband's death.
:
: The old me - ie the me who did not know AA's teachings - by now,
could
: be finding as a good excuse for thinking "I don't want to do all
this
: work" and therefore not doing anything, the enormous amount of
work
: that has to be done in order to secure probate to execute my
husband's
: Will and to sort out my finances and home; the decisions that I
have
: to take; the occasional frustrations that I have felt when
something
: has gone awry; the pain I suffer each time I do something which
: results in me losing another visible sign of my husband (eg taking
his
: good clothes to a charity shop, closing his bank accounts, having
his
: name removed from our joint account). Now, what good would me not
: doing anything that relates to what has to be done do me ? Would
it
: bring my husband back ? No. Will it bring me benefits for my
future ?
: Probably not. Could delaying doing this work create problems for
me in
: the future ? Probably, it would.
:
: Thankfully, the new me - ie the me who tries to live life
according to
: AA's teachings - sees the sense in: attempting to each day do a
few of
: the tasks that need and ought to be done; accepting that if,
despite
: my best efforts to get a task done I can't then there's always
another
: today in which I can try to get it done, and remembering that if I
: find myself getting angry or frustrated for example, then is a
good
: time, probably, to stop whatever it is I'm doing and switch to
: something that could enable me to calm down. From experience, I've
: learnt that when I'm feeling calm I'm often able to see what the
next
: "right thing for me to do" is.
:
: The new me is often each today able to go to bed at night feeling
: pleased with what I have today achieved. The old me could at this
time
: in my life be going to bed worrying about what has yet to be done.
: Thinking about my achievements may result in me getting a decent
: night's sleep and for that I am always grateful :^)
:
: Sheenah/JB.
:
: --
: "Truth is generally the best vindication against slander"
Abraham
: Lincoln
:
:
stuart
02-26-2005, 11:22 AM
"JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
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> "trying to set your whole life in order at once." - As Bill Sees It,
> page 308
>
> I think it a good idea to share with you one of the benefits that I am
> getting from remembering that it is not necessary for me to try to get
> sorted by the end of any today all the tasks that have arisen as a
> result of my husband's death.
>
> The old me - ie the me who did not know AA's teachings - by now, could
> be finding as a good excuse for thinking "I don't want to do all this
> work" and therefore not doing anything, the enormous amount of work
> that has to be done in order to secure probate to execute my husband's
> Will and to sort out my finances and home; the decisions that I have
> to take; the occasional frustrations that I have felt when something
> has gone awry; the pain I suffer each time I do something which
> results in me losing another visible sign of my husband (eg taking his
> good clothes to a charity shop, closing his bank accounts, having his
> name removed from our joint account). Now, what good would me not
> doing anything that relates to what has to be done do me ? Would it
> bring my husband back ? No. Will it bring me benefits for my future ?
> Probably not. Could delaying doing this work create problems for me in
> the future ? Probably, it would.
>
> Thankfully, the new me - ie the me who tries to live life according to
> AA's teachings - sees the sense in: attempting to each day do a few of
> the tasks that need and ought to be done; accepting that if, despite
> my best efforts to get a task done I can't then there's always another
> today in which I can try to get it done, and remembering that if I
> find myself getting angry or frustrated for example, then is a good
> time, probably, to stop whatever it is I'm doing and switch to
> something that could enable me to calm down. From experience, I've
> learnt that when I'm feeling calm I'm often able to see what the next
> "right thing for me to do" is.
>
> The new me is often each today able to go to bed at night feeling
> pleased with what I have today achieved. The old me could at this time
> in my life be going to bed worrying about what has yet to be done.
> Thinking about my achievements may result in me getting a decent
> night's sleep and for that I am always grateful :^)
>
> Sheenah/JB.
>
> --
> "Truth is generally the best vindication against slander" Abraham
> Lincoln
One of my old mentors keeps repeating at meetings.."Go to meetings, get a
Big Book, get a sponsor, work the steps, don't drink between meetings and
your life will get better"... He never lied to me.
" rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> glad to read that you are drawing on the examples set forth in
> AA.....................that ODAAT thing really works, doesn't it?
> :)
Amused by thoughts that you may at this time be believing that I did
have a husband:
From: " rosie" <readandpost...@hotmail.com> - Find messages by this
author
Date: Tue, 9 Mar 2004 20:56:20 -0600
<Bob W.> wrote in message
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> <readandpost...@hotmail.com> wrote:
> >> Oh boy! A cat fight. I'm taking bets.
> >ROTFLMAO!
> >he/she is soooooooooooo much better off in my killfile!
> >;)
> She.
> She slipped up and said something about her husband.....unless
she/he
> lives in San Fran.
> But you're right, she's safer in there.
yeah, yeah, yeah, heard all the stories about her
"husband"......................
when he/she starts even getting CLOSE to telling the truth, i will
think twice about killfiling him/her, but until
then.......................ick!
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>
> --
>
>
>
>
>
>
> "JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
> news:cvpvob$a2b$1@news7.svr.pol.co.uk...
> : "trying to set your whole life in order at once." - As Bill Sees
> It,
> : page 308
> :
> : I think it a good idea to share with you one of the benefits that
> I am
> : getting from remembering that it is not necessary for me to try to
> get
> : sorted by the end of any today all the tasks that have arisen as a
> : result of my husband's death.
> :
> : The old me - ie the me who did not know AA's teachings - by now,
> could
> : be finding as a good excuse for thinking "I don't want to do all
> this
> : work" and therefore not doing anything, the enormous amount of
> work
> : that has to be done in order to secure probate to execute my
> husband's
> : Will and to sort out my finances and home; the decisions that I
> have
> : to take; the occasional frustrations that I have felt when
> something
> : has gone awry; the pain I suffer each time I do something which
> : results in me losing another visible sign of my husband (eg taking
> his
> : good clothes to a charity shop, closing his bank accounts, having
> his
> : name removed from our joint account). Now, what good would me not
> : doing anything that relates to what has to be done do me ? Would
> it
> : bring my husband back ? No. Will it bring me benefits for my
> future ?
> : Probably not. Could delaying doing this work create problems for
> me in
> : the future ? Probably, it would.
> :
> : Thankfully, the new me - ie the me who tries to live life
> according to
> : AA's teachings - sees the sense in: attempting to each day do a
> few of
> : the tasks that need and ought to be done; accepting that if,
> despite
> : my best efforts to get a task done I can't then there's always
> another
> : today in which I can try to get it done, and remembering that if I
> : find myself getting angry or frustrated for example, then is a
> good
> : time, probably, to stop whatever it is I'm doing and switch to
> : something that could enable me to calm down. From experience, I've
> : learnt that when I'm feeling calm I'm often able to see what the
> next
> : "right thing for me to do" is.
> :
> : The new me is often each today able to go to bed at night feeling
> : pleased with what I have today achieved. The old me could at this
> time
> : in my life be going to bed worrying about what has yet to be done.
> : Thinking about my achievements may result in me getting a decent
> : night's sleep and for that I am always grateful :^)
> :
> : Sheenah/JB.
> :
> : --
> : "Truth is generally the best vindication against slander"
> Abraham
> : Lincoln
> :
> :
>
>
rosie readandpost
02-26-2005, 02:38 PM
:
: Amused by thoughts that you may at this time be believing that I
did
: have a husband:
:
:
amused?
........................and so you continue on the same path.
rosie
never apologize for showing feeling. when you do so, you apologize
for the truth.
.............................b. disraeli
" rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> :
> : Amused by thoughts that you may at this time be believing that I
> did
> : have a husband:
> :
> :
>
> amused?
> .......................and so you continue on the same path.
>
> rosie
As do you my dear, as do you. LOL
rosie readandpost
02-26-2005, 04:27 PM
: >
: > amused?
: > .......................and so you continue on the same path.
: >
: > rosie
:
: As do you my dear, as do you. LOL
:
:
"If you find yourself patiently explaining, at length and in great
detail, some obscure point to someone who isn't even being polite to
you, then you are probably being trolled."
" rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> : >
> : > amused?
> : > .......................and so you continue on the same path.
> : >
> : > rosie
> :
> : As do you my dear, as do you. LOL
> :
> :
>
>
> "If you find yourself patiently explaining, at length and in great
> detail, some obscure point to someone who isn't even being polite to
> you, then you are probably being trolled."
From: " rosie" <readandpost...@hotmail.com> - Find messages by this
author
Date: Tue, 9 Mar 2004 20:56:20 -0600
<Bob W.> wrote in message
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> <readandpost...@hotmail.com> wrote:
> >> Oh boy! A cat fight. I'm taking bets.
> >ROTFLMAO!
> >he/she is soooooooooooo much better off in my killfile!
> >;)
> She.
> She slipped up and said something about her husband.....unless
she/he
> lives in San Fran.
> But you're right, she's safer in there.
yeah, yeah, yeah, heard all the stories about her
"husband"......................
when he/she starts even getting CLOSE to telling the truth, i will
think twice about killfiling him/her, but until
then.......................ick!
-----------------
Rosie, a suggestion:
From: "rosie readandpost" <readandpostREMOVET...@yahoo.com> - Find
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Date: Sat, 20 Sep 2003 12:18:57 GMT
Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
Step Four is, "Made a searching and fearless moral
inventory of ourselves." Step Five is, " Admitted to
HP to ourselves and to another human being the exact
nature of our wrongs." Step Six is, "Were entirely
ready to have HP remove all these defects of
character." Step Seven is, "Humbly asked Him to remove
our shortcomings." Step Ten is, "Continued to take
personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly
admitted it." In taking a personal inventory, we have
to be absolutely honest with ourselves and with
other people. Have I taken an honest inventory of myself?
rosie readandpost
02-26-2005, 08:27 PM
out of respect for your grief, i will let you have the last word
"JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
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:
: " rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
: news:yJ6Ud.14192$3V3.5244@twister.rdc-kc.rr.com...
: > : >
: > : > amused?
: > : > .......................and so you continue on the same path.
: > : >
: > : > rosie
: > :
: > : As do you my dear, as do you. LOL
: > :
: > :
: >
: >
: > "If you find yourself patiently explaining, at length and in
great
: > detail, some obscure point to someone who isn't even being
polite to
: > you, then you are probably being trolled."
:
: From: " rosie" <readandpost...@hotmail.com> - Find messages by
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: author
: Date: Tue, 9 Mar 2004 20:56:20 -0600
: <Bob W.> wrote in message
: news:e4efd9db99b2582f4b1bb05bd5481b8b@news.teranew s.com...
: > <readandpost...@hotmail.com> wrote:
:
: > >> Oh boy! A cat fight. I'm taking bets.
:
: > >ROTFLMAO!
: > >he/she is soooooooooooo much better off in my killfile!
: > >;)
:
: > She.
:
: > She slipped up and said something about her husband.....unless
: she/he
: > lives in San Fran.
:
: > But you're right, she's safer in there.
:
: yeah, yeah, yeah, heard all the stories about her
: "husband"......................
:
: when he/she starts even getting CLOSE to telling the truth, i will
: think twice about killfiling him/her, but until
: then.......................ick!
:
: -----------------
:
: Rosie, a suggestion:
:
: From: "rosie readandpost" <readandpostREMOVET...@yahoo.com> - Find
: messages by this author
: Date: Sat, 20 Sep 2003 12:18:57 GMT
:
: Twenty-Four Hours A Day
:
: A.A. Thought For The Day
:
: Step Four is, "Made a searching and fearless moral
: inventory of ourselves." Step Five is, " Admitted to
: HP to ourselves and to another human being the exact
: nature of our wrongs." Step Six is, "Were entirely
: ready to have HP remove all these defects of
: character." Step Seven is, "Humbly asked Him to remove
: our shortcomings." Step Ten is, "Continued to take
: personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly
: admitted it." In taking a personal inventory, we have
: to be absolutely honest with ourselves and with
: other people. Have I taken an honest inventory of myself?
:
:
Robert McGregor
02-26-2005, 09:10 PM
" rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> out of respect for your grief, i will let you have the last word
Were rosie just a teeny bit genuine before that proclamation, what
post would there be to reply to?
Bob
" rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> out of respect for your grief, i will let you have the last word
>
LOL. Thank you fof the demonstration of how easy it is to post AA's
teachings but impossible at times to practice them.
Sheenah/JB
> : From: " rosie" <readandpost...@hotmail.com> - Find messages by
> this
> : author
> : Date: Tue, 9 Mar 2004 20:56:20 -0600
> : <Bob W.> wrote in message
> : news:e4efd9db99b2582f4b1bb05bd5481b8b@news.teranew s.com...
> : > <readandpost...@hotmail.com> wrote:
> :
> : > >> Oh boy! A cat fight. I'm taking bets.
> :
> : > >ROTFLMAO!
> : > >he/she is soooooooooooo much better off in my killfile!
> : > >;)
> :
> : > She.
> :
> : > She slipped up and said something about her husband.....unless
> : she/he
> : > lives in San Fran.
> :
> : > But you're right, she's safer in there.
> :
> : yeah, yeah, yeah, heard all the stories about her
> : "husband"......................
> :
> : when he/she starts even getting CLOSE to telling the truth, i will
> : think twice about killfiling him/her, but until
> : then.......................ick!
> :
> : -----------------
> :
> : Rosie, a suggestion:
> :
> : From: "rosie readandpost" <readandpostREMOVET...@yahoo.com> - Find
> : messages by this author
> : Date: Sat, 20 Sep 2003 12:18:57 GMT
> :
> : Twenty-Four Hours A Day
> :
> : A.A. Thought For The Day
> :
> : Step Four is, "Made a searching and fearless moral
> : inventory of ourselves." Step Five is, " Admitted to
> : HP to ourselves and to another human being the exact
> : nature of our wrongs." Step Six is, "Were entirely
> : ready to have HP remove all these defects of
> : character." Step Seven is, "Humbly asked Him to remove
> : our shortcomings." Step Ten is, "Continued to take
> : personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly
> : admitted it." In taking a personal inventory, we have
> : to be absolutely honest with ourselves and with
> : other people. Have I taken an honest inventory of myself?
> :
> :
>
>
Robert McGregor
02-27-2005, 03:18 AM
"JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
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>
> " rosie readandpost" <readandpost@yahoo.com> wrote in message
> news:jeaUd.23576$Sq5.1453@twister.rdc-kc.rr.com...
>> out of respect for your grief, i will let you have the last word
>>
> LOL. Thank you fof the demonstration of how easy it is to post
> AA's
> teachings but impossible at times to practice them.
>
> Sheenah/JB
>
"This (12 & 12) of course will bring me (Bill W) a substantial
income" Pass It On p351
"At this point he firmly but lovingly commences to behave like a
partner instead of like a bad boy. And above all he is finally
convinced that reckless romancing is not a way of life for him." 12
&12 page 119 --------------------
A. I give and bequeath to HELEN WYNN [Bill changed his Will to take
10% royalties from his wife Lois and give those 10% to his mistress
Helen], of Pleasantville, New York, if she survives me, a life
interest in ten percent (10%) of such royalties.
http://gsowatch.aamo.info/aaws/heirs.htm
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