Welcome Adversity

[JB]

Mental and emotional difficulties are sometimes very hard to take
while we are trying to maintain sobriety. Yet we do see, in the long
run, that transendence over such problems is the real test of the AA
way of living. Adversity gives us more opportunity to grow than does
comfort or success - "As Bill Sees It", page 234

I think it's a good idea to tell you that I've been sobbing. I never
imagined that losing Peter, my husband, would cause me to hurt as much
as I do.

This morning I saw my doctor in order to share with her all that I am
doing to try to get through this difficult time one day at a time and
to also get advice from her.

Turning to drink will not bring my Peter back. At best, it could only
ever bring me temporary relief from the emotional pain I'm now
suffering. That would come through me drinking for no reason other
than to achieve a black-out

FWIW, both in my head and in my heart I know that this difficult time
will pass and that how I am today is normal for someone who deeply
loved their partner and knows they have no way of getting them back.

Should this post prove to be of help to at least one person, then I
shall have cause to think it was a good idea to have sent it.

Sheenah/JB

[stuart]

"JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
news:cv31aj$3uk$1@newsg1.svr.pol.co.uk...
> Mental and emotional difficulties are sometimes very hard to take
> while we are trying to maintain sobriety. Yet we do see, in the long
> run, that transendence over such problems is the real test of the AA
> way of living. Adversity gives us more opportunity to grow than does
> comfort or success - "As Bill Sees It", page 234
>
> I think it's a good idea to tell you that I've been sobbing. I never
> imagined that losing Peter, my husband, would cause me to hurt as much
> as I do.
>
> This morning I saw my doctor in order to share with her all that I am
> doing to try to get through this difficult time one day at a time and
> to also get advice from her.
>
> Turning to drink will not bring my Peter back. At best, it could only
> ever bring me temporary relief from the emotional pain I'm now
> suffering. That would come through me drinking for no reason other
> than to achieve a black-out
>
> FWIW, both in my head and in my heart I know that this difficult time
> will pass and that how I am today is normal for someone who deeply
> loved their partner and knows they have no way of getting them back.
>
> Should this post prove to be of help to at least one person, then I
> shall have cause to think it was a good idea to have sent it.
>
> Sheenah/JB

And a year or so from now, when you are feeling happier (and you will), you
will also feel very, very good about your ability to have transcended your
present pain without drinking. Your confidence level will improve
dramatically with respect to your ability to cope with life's challenges.

[Tim]

I can't tell you how beautiful both of these messages were. I have gone
through a lot this year but nothing close to what you have done. Thanks to
both of you for sharing.
"stuart" <ggo@feds.org> wrote in message
news:gC9Rd.73740$L_3.16021@clgrps13...
>
> "JB" <JBCatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
> news:cv31aj$3uk$1@newsg1.svr.pol.co.uk...
>> Mental and emotional difficulties are sometimes very hard to take
>> while we are trying to maintain sobriety. Yet we do see, in the long
>> run, that transendence over such problems is the real test of the AA
>> way of living. Adversity gives us more opportunity to grow than does
>> comfort or success - "As Bill Sees It", page 234
>>
>> I think it's a good idea to tell you that I've been sobbing. I never
>> imagined that losing Peter, my husband, would cause me to hurt as much
>> as I do.
>>
>> This morning I saw my doctor in order to share with her all that I am
>> doing to try to get through this difficult time one day at a time and
>> to also get advice from her.
>>
>> Turning to drink will not bring my Peter back. At best, it could only
>> ever bring me temporary relief from the emotional pain I'm now
>> suffering. That would come through me drinking for no reason other
>> than to achieve a black-out
>>
>> FWIW, both in my head and in my heart I know that this difficult time
>> will pass and that how I am today is normal for someone who deeply
>> loved their partner and knows they have no way of getting them back.
>>
>> Should this post prove to be of help to at least one person, then I
>> shall have cause to think it was a good idea to have sent it.
>>
>> Sheenah/JB
>
> And a year or so from now, when you are feeling happier (and you will),
> you will also feel very, very good about your ability to have transcended
> your present pain without drinking. Your confidence level will improve
> dramatically with respect to your ability to cope with life's challenges.
>
>
>