Anonymity Concerns

[Ben Crowley]

I was reading a post from a few days ago from a person concerned about
people "outing" her at her work. I to have had similiar concerns. I live
in a small town and some of the best meetings are held at a place I used to
work at and I am still professionally and socially involved with and I'm
concerned about people seeing me there. I find it interesting though that
while drunk, I had no problem going to the bars and having people see me
there wasted out of my mind (actually there was a lot of remorse the
following day, especially if I couldn't remember leaving).
I've resolved this in my mind with a couple of thoughts.
- The old saying: What other people think of me is none of my business.
- It's better being seen sober going to a meeting, than being seen drunk
going to jail.
- Most people are to busy to really care about me going to a meeting.
- If other people think bad of me for going to a meeting, I can't change
that. My problems drinking, and I can change that by goint to a meeting.
- If those people saw me drunk, they should be glad to see me going to a
meeting.

[Gail]

"Ben Crowley" <register57@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:10kp8kg1hv7ks5f@corp.supernews.com...
> I was reading a post from a few days ago from a person concerned about
> people "outing" her at her work. I to have had similiar concerns. I live
> in a small town and some of the best meetings are held at a place I used
to
> work at and I am still professionally and socially involved with and I'm
> concerned about people seeing me there. I find it interesting though that
> while drunk, I had no problem going to the bars and having people see me
> there wasted out of my mind (actually there was a lot of remorse the
> following day, especially if I couldn't remember leaving).
> I've resolved this in my mind with a couple of thoughts.
> - The old saying: What other people think of me is none of my business.
> - It's better being seen sober going to a meeting, than being seen drunk
> going to jail.
> - Most people are to busy to really care about me going to a meeting.
> - If other people think bad of me for going to a meeting, I can't change
> that. My problems drinking, and I can change that by goint to a meeting.
> - If those people saw me drunk, they should be glad to see me going to a
> meeting.
>
>
>

Amen to that, Ben.
Gail

[Dan McGown]

"Ben Crowley" <register57@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:10kp8kg1hv7ks5f@corp.supernews.com...
>I was reading a post from a few days ago from a person concerned about
>people "outing" her at her work. I to have had similiar concerns. I live
>in a small town and some of the best meetings are held at a place I used to
>work at and I am still professionally and socially involved with and I'm
>concerned about people seeing me there. I find it interesting though that
>while drunk, I had no problem going to the bars and having people see me
>there wasted out of my mind (actually there was a lot of remorse the
>following day, especially if I couldn't remember leaving).
> I've resolved this in my mind with a couple of thoughts.
> - The old saying: What other people think of me is none of my business.
> - It's better being seen sober going to a meeting, than being seen drunk
> going to jail.
> - Most people are to busy to really care about me going to a meeting.
> - If other people think bad of me for going to a meeting, I can't change
> that. My problems drinking, and I can change that by goint to a meeting.
> - If those people saw me drunk, they should be glad to see me going to a
> meeting.

Ben,
When I was working my way down to serious drinking every night and all
weekend, everyone I knew (and a lot of people I didn't know, but who knew
me) all knew what I was doing. There aren't really any secrets. Hell,
that's especially true in a small town. If you have to live in an
environment where anyone might notice that you go to meetings then everyone
already knew when you were drinking.
I'm like you on this subject. I'm just glad now that if they see me
doing anything related to alcohol that it's going to an AA meeting.
Much better to be known as a guy who used to drink than as a guy who
still is.
Take care,
Dan

[rosie]

for those who find it really important to remain
anonymous....................for whatever reason, there are those in
AA who believe that this can be achieved.
please seek them out...............some start by going to meetings
in other counties, parishes, communities.
a call to your local AA (hotline) office should be of some help to
you.