How Would the Narcissist React to Your Text?
(faq page 8)

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Question:

What is the reaction of a Narcissist likely to be when confronted
with your text?

Answer:

It takes a major life crisis to force the narcissist to face his
false self.

A painful breakdown of a close (symbiotic) relationship, a failure
(in business, in a career, in the pursuit of a goal), the death of
a parent, imprisonment, or a disease and their dehumanising and
uniqueness-depriving aspects.

Under normal circumstances, the narcissist denies that he is one
(denial defence mechanism) and reacts with rage to any hint at
being so classified. The narcissist employs a host of intricate
and interwoven defence mechanisms: rationalisation,
intellectualisation, projection, projective identification,
splitting, suppression and denial (to name but a few) – to sweep
his narcissism under the psychological carpet.

When at risk of getting in touch with the reality of being
mentally disturbed (and, as a result, with his emotions) – the
narcissist displays the whole spectrum of emotional reactions
usually associated with bereavement. At first he denies the facts,
ignores them and distorts them to fit an alternative, coherent,
non-narcissistic, interpretation.

Then, he becomes enraged. Wrathful, he attacks the people and
social institutions that are the constant reminders of his true
state. Then he sinks into depression and sadness. This phase is,
really, a transformation of the aggression that he harbours into
self-destructive impulses. Horrified by the potential consequences
of being aggressive towards the very Sources of his Narcissistic
Supply – the narcissist resorts to self-attack, or
self-annihilation. Yet, if the evidence is hard and still coming,
the narcissist accepts himself as such and tries to make the best
of it (in other words, to use his very narcissism to obtain
narcissistic supply). The narcissist is a survivor and (while
rigid in most parts of his personality) – very inventive and
flexible when it comes to securing Narcissistic Supply. The
narcissist could, for instance, channel this force (of narcissism)
positively – or defiantly caricature the main aspects of
narcissism so as to attract attention (albeit negative).

But in most cases, the reflexes of avoidance prevail. The
narcissist feels disenchanted with the person or persons who
presented him with proof of his narcissism. He disconnects –
swiftly and cruelly – and parts ways with them, often without as
much as an explanation (same as he would when he envies someone).

He then proceeds to develop paranoid theories to explain why
people, events, institutions and circumstances tend to confront
him with his narcissism and he, bitterly and cynically, opposes
them or avoids them. As anti-narcissistic agents they constitute a
threat to the very coherence and continuity of his personality and
this probably serves to explain the ferocity, malice, obduracy,
consistency and exaggeration which characterise his reactions. His
reaction only seems disproportional from the outside. Faced with
the potential collapse or dysfunctioning of his False Self – the
narcissist also faces the terrible consequences of being left
alone and defenceless with his sadistic, maligned,
self-destructive Superego.