Kai;

Please understand what I am trying to be for you. I am not trying to give
you concrete advice as to what to do, just some food for thought.
What I was really trying to be was an ear. It's a little difficult to be a
good listener when were dealing with this type of communication...
Mainly my feedback was trying to show you that I've been where your husband
was at, and what motivated me to change. We are all different in that
regard.

I really know you will get through this OK....

All the best

Stuart from Edmonton

stuart wrote:

> Kai;
>
> Please understand what I am trying to be for you. I am not trying to give
> you concrete advice as to what to do, just some food for thought.
> What I was really trying to be was an ear. It's a little difficult to be a
> good listener when were dealing with this type of communication...
> Mainly my feedback was trying to show you that I've been where your husband
> was at, and what motivated me to change. We are all different in that
> regard.
>
> I really know you will get through this OK....
>
> All the best
>
> Stuart from Edmonton
>
>

I know. That's why I post here and I really do appreciate people's
responses. It makes life seem a little less lonely. I have friends
that I talk to, but mostly they don't understand the dynamic at
work, and freely admit it. And, they are biased in favor of what's
best for me and my happiness - a good thing that. But, they don't
know the other side like people here do.

Today was a good day, for me. He missed work, so I took his
car and got alot of stuff done that I've been missing while my son
has had my car the past three weeks. : ( It was gorgeous
here today. Had lunch with a friend, checked in at the shop
and picked up some dough from a sale, bought a few beads for
a project I'm working on in the evenings, had a cappuccino with
another friend with even more serious goings on than myself at the
moment.

Thanks.

Kai