On Sun, 6 Nov 2005 20:08:41 -0000, "Sheenah" <JBcatRB@coldman.com>
wrote:

>
>"[[]]" <[[]]@[[]].com> wrote in message
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>> > Maybe the compromise would be for her
>> > to go outside & remove the keys from the car. That would leave him
>in
>> > the car but remove the possibility of him driving it & hurting
>himself
>> > or someone else. Kai would be protecting herself but not helping
>him.
>> > -----
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>>
>> that idea sounds like a big step backward to me. i got the feeling she
>was
>> over managing his alcoholism.
>>
>> -steve
>
>Would an alcholic who wants to drive after drinking always warmly
>welcome someone's attempts to stop him or her doing what they wanted to
>do. May some such persons respond sometimes with more than hurled verbal
>abuse ?
>
>Sheenah
>
>

There are enough orphans and widos in the world. Not wanting an
impaired person driving is common sense.

On Wed, 09 Nov 2005 11:49:26 -0500, "chrissyben"
<chrissyben62@yahoo.com> wrote:

>Hi Kai,
>I am new to this site. I read your stories and can totally relate to you.
>I have lived with my alcoholic husband for almost 6 years now. I can not
>believe I am still with him. He just got his first DUI a few months ago.
>This may sound mean but I was so happy, I thought it was his bottom. Sadly
>I was wrong. Not having a license did not stop him from driving around
>stoned and drunk, in fact he has gotten worse. There are times that I wish
>he would get pulled over again or I think maybe I should call the police
>on him. These thoughts make me feel guilty. I agree with you that calling
>the police will not help the situation. In the past few months I have
>learned to detach myself lovingly from him. These are his problems not
>mine. I can't control what the outcome will be, I can just sit back and
>watch the movie. I don't even bring up his drinking and drugging anymore,
>I don't say anything when he comes home late or embarrases himself at a
>party.
>


If you knowingly do not call the police when he is driving intoxicated
and he injures/mamea/kills other people you may be an accessory to the
crime. This is in addition to other liability if you are the
registered owner

"someone in need" <nobody@nowhere.com> wrote in message
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> If you knowingly do not call the police when he is driving
> intoxicated
> and he injures/mamea/kills other people you may be an accessory to
> the
> crime. This is in addition to other liability if you are the
> registered owner
>

Do you *honestly* wonder why, after enduring your proven capacity for
catastrophising, your wife eventually drank herself into catastrophe?

However, there is 'most always a ray of hope.

Given your demonstration above, you may eventually crunch your
negative extrapolation positively into reverse gear; then back track
sufficiently to toddle into accepting the possibility your wife's
behaviour commenced as, and, so far, remains; merely a desperate
expression of essential escapism, as distinct from real alcoholism.

Bob

"someone in need" <nobody@nowhere.com> wrote in message
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> On Sun, 6 Nov 2005 20:08:41 -0000, "Sheenah" <JBcatRB@coldman.com>
> wrote:
>
> >Would an alcholic who wants to drive after drinking always warmly
> >welcome someone's attempts to stop him or her doing what they wanted
to
> >do. May some such persons respond sometimes with more than hurled
verbal
> >abuse ?
> >
> >Sheenah
> >
> >
>
> There are enough orphans and widos in the world. Not wanting an
> impaired person driving is common sense.
>

Last night, I met chap who freely admitted to continuing to drive
despite having been banned from driving on account of being convicted of
driving while over the drink/driving limit. A case of "where there's a
will, there's a way" ?