Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I had
to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken all
of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack me
but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it &
he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone to
call 911.

The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on his
face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I did
what had to be done.

He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore, not
if I want to survive sane & unhurt.

I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is the
only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear to
me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
him because he doesn't want to get better.

I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have six
pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it comes
down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.

I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with my
family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my finances,
our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
children, thank God.

Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I must
be strong.
-----
Kim/Dreamspinner3
Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/

"Dreamspinner3" <dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:54qdm1p206m00mi3vi3nqubqg5oheirnra@4ax.com...
> Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I
> had
> to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken
> all
> of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack
> me
> but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it
> &
> he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone
> to
> call 911.
>
> The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
> take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on
> his
> face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I
> did
> what had to be done.
>
> He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
> asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
> would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
> want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore,
> not
> if I want to survive sane & unhurt.
>
> I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is
> the
> only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
> insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear
> to
> me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
> him because he doesn't want to get better.
>
> I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
> arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have
> six
> pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it
> comes
> down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.
>
> I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
> meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with
> my
> family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my
> finances,
> our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
> only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
> children, thank God.
>
> Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I
> must
> be strong.
> -----
> Kim/Dreamspinner3
> Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/

Thanks for sharing your times with us. Certainly timely reminders of
my own history, so saying a prayer for you and your pets in new and
perhaps daunting freedom was a healthy moment, at least it was for
me.

Kim, wishing you strength to grasp the best of a future that holds
good things in store for you, trust you can drop by occasionally and
tell us about some of them,

Bob

Be strong and rest assured you have our prayers.

18 years with alcoholism is a LONG TIME and no doubt you deserve a
purple heart.

Am I incorrect to asume your husband had failed recovery, or even
attempted it?

I am going on one year with an alcoholic wife and starting to think a
trensfer to Iraq would be the less stressful choice.



I have a friend that attained sobriety after 20 years of alcoholism.
He is now clear as a bell and learned to be a computer systems
engineer.





On Tue, 01 Nov 2005 04:11:06 GMT, Dreamspinner3
<dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote:

>Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I had
>to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken all
>of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack me
>but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it &
>he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone to
>call 911.
>
>The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
>take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on his
>face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I did
>what had to be done.
>
>He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
>asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
>would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
>want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore, not
>if I want to survive sane & unhurt.
>
>I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is the
>only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
>insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear to
>me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
>him because he doesn't want to get better.
>
>I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
>arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have six
>pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it comes
>down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.
>
>I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
>meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with my
>family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my finances,
>our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
>only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
>children, thank God.
>
>Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I must
>be strong.
>-----
>Kim/Dreamspinner3
>Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/

"Dreamspinner3" <dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:54qdm1p206m00mi3vi3nqubqg5oheirnra@4ax.com...
> Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I had
> to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken all
> of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack me
> but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it &
> he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone to
> call 911.
>
> The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
> take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on his
> face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I did
> what had to be done.
>
> He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
> asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
> would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
> want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore, not
> if I want to survive sane & unhurt.
>
> I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is the
> only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
> insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear to
> me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
> him because he doesn't want to get better.
>
> I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
> arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have six
> pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it comes
> down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.
>
> I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
> meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with my
> family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my finances,
> our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
> only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
> children, thank God.
>
> Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I must
> be strong.
> -----
> Kim/Dreamspinner3
> Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/


Kim, you and your husband will be in my prayers. I know this wasn't easy for
you. Prayer does work. God answers the prayers in His own time. I am finding
that out and I hope you do, too.
Take care,
Gail

"someone in need" <nobody@nowhere.com> wrote in message
>
> I am going on one year with an alcoholic wife and starting to think a
> trensfer to Iraq would be the less stressful choice.
>


now THERE is a drastic choice!
try ALANON first!

i am glad that you put your safety first and called the police.
giving your husband as much help as he needs (commitment) is another
good choice!
your both in my thoughts and prayers!
rosie




"Dreamspinner3" <dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:54qdm1p206m00mi3vi3nqubqg5oheirnra@4ax.com...
> Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I had
> to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken all
> of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack me
> but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it &
> he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone to
> call 911.
>
> The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
> take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on his
> face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I did
> what had to be done.
>
> He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
> asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
> would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
> want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore, not
> if I want to survive sane & unhurt.
>
> I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is the
> only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
> insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear to
> me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
> him because he doesn't want to get better.
>
> I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
> arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have six
> pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it comes
> down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.
>
> I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
> meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with my
> family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my finances,
> our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
> only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
> children, thank God.
>
> Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I must
> be strong.
> -----
> Kim/Dreamspinner3
> Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/

"Gail" <serenity6850_2000(removethis)@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:eqK9f.7817$7s1.6616@fe04.lga...
>
> "Dreamspinner3" <dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote in message
> news:54qdm1p206m00mi3vi3nqubqg5oheirnra@4ax.com...
>> Last night my alcoholic husband was taken away by the police. I had
>> to call them because he was so out of control & claimed he taken all
>> of his medication & that he would soon be dead. He didn't attack me
>> but he did try to rip one phone out of the wall when I was using it &
>> he lunged at me on the bed & grabbed me when I used my cell phone to
>> call 911.
>>
>> The police came, assessed the situation, and called an ambulance to
>> take him away. He resisted the cops & got cut in the process on his
>> face. He was totally out of it & I was afraid for my safety. I did
>> what had to be done.
>>
>> He is being held for the next 72 hours on a psych hold & I've been
>> asked if I would sign commitment papers if need be, which I said I
>> would do. However I have also reached my bottom and have decided I
>> want out of our marriage. I can't keep living this way anymore, not
>> if I want to survive sane & unhurt.
>>
>> I've spent 18 years, as of tomorrow, living with this man. He is the
>> only man I've loved. And now, I finally know it is over. The
>> insanity of last night opened my eyes and has made it all to clear to
>> me that he is on the road to death. It will take a miracle to save
>> him because he doesn't want to get better.
>>
>> I've made some calls about getting a restraining order & making
>> arrangements to stay elsewhere if need be. The problem is I have six
>> pet bird, large ones, and a dog. I will leave them here if it comes
>> down to saving my life, but I must also try to think of them.
>>
>> I am just so overwhelmed with what I must do. I went to an Alanon
>> meeting tonight and I see my therapist tomorrow. I've spoken with my
>> family about financial help to get me out of this mess--my finances,
>> our finances are a total mess, we're in Chapter 13 right now. The
>> only property we have is the house, which has equity in it. No
>> children, thank God.
>>
>> Please consider praying for me because I'm going to need it. I must
>> be strong.
>> -----
>> Kim/Dreamspinner3
>> Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/
>
>
> Kim, you and your husband will be in my prayers. I know this wasn't easy
> for you. Prayer does work. God answers the prayers in His own time. I am
> finding that out and I hope you do, too.
> Take care,
> Gail
>

PS-I said the other day I was getting stronger. I meant that my faith was
getting stronger. I am a very weak person. I am making better decisions and
it appears you are to. It may not seem like it, but something good will
come from all this one day. Believe that if you don't believe anything else
I say.

My husband has done outpatient recovery many, many times & had in & out
of AA throughout our relationship. He's never had inpatient treatment,
although I begged the doctors to commit him to it when he was in the
hospital earlier this year after having a surgery & breaking bones in
his face. He found out at that point that he's a diabetic as well.

I feel guilty for wanting out, for some reason! It is just terrible
the grip alcohol can gain over people & those around them. I really
doubt my husband will ever get better even though he is going to be
committed for treatment of alcoholism & mental illness according to his
doctor. He has a death wish, I really believe it.

> I feel guilty for wanting out, for some reason! It is just terrible
> the grip alcohol can gain over people & those around them.

yes, it is called CO-DEPENDANCY and it can wreck lives just like
alcoholism can.




>I really
> doubt my husband will ever get better even though he is going to be
> committed for treatment of alcoholism & mental illness according to
his
> doctor. He has a death wish, I really believe it.
>




yup! i think we all did, prior to surrender!

You are right about codependancy! I am the poster child for it. But I
am done. I can't take it anymore, I surrender to the fact that my life
is insane & that I need help.