Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?



Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
ones finances?

someone in need <nospamplease@somewhere.com> wrote in message
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> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
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> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
> ones finances?

Drinking or not drinking?
If someone has the ism, they may turn to other compulsions after quitting,
or for that matter while drinking. Spending on extravagances to "feel
better" is not uncommon, although the other side of the coin is to become
cheap and miserly. We need to reward ourselves in sobriety IMO.
Perhaps we never really learned how to live within our means and it becomes
more painfully obvious in sobriety.

"Shopaholism," or whatever you want to call it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do
with drinking. My ex wasn't a drinker but boy could/can she shop, and so
could/can I. What this had to do with the booze, I'm unsure. Certainly a
'drinker' can make bad decisions around purchases as well as a non-drinker.

In my humble opinion it's important that I don't attribute every negative
characteristic I have to drinking. Sobriety has clearly show me that ther
are just as many f***** up people out there who never touched a drop. Go
figure.

someone in need wrote:

> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
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> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
> ones finances?

Lets say a person pre-alcoholism was very organized financially, not
spending beyond their means and being able to budget well.

With onset of alcoholism it seems money evaporates.

ie; spending hundreds on skin care products and not having rent money
as a result.




On Tue, 30 Aug 2005 21:51:37 GMT, WACO
<WasACucumberOnce@NowI'mSober.com> wrote:

>"Shopaholism," or whatever you want to call it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do
>with drinking. My ex wasn't a drinker but boy could/can she shop, and so
>could/can I. What this had to do with the booze, I'm unsure. Certainly a
>'drinker' can make bad decisions around purchases as well as a non-drinker.
>
>In my humble opinion it's important that I don't attribute every negative
>characteristic I have to drinking. Sobriety has clearly show me that ther
>are just as many f***** up people out there who never touched a drop. Go
>figure.
>
>someone in need wrote:
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>> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
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>> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
>> ones finances?
>

When I first got sober,
I started to buy crap from ebay.

I had alot of money all of the sudden !

After 2 or so months, I happen to catch a
20x20 or Newlines TV show that was talking
about how ebay has turned many into *gaming*
fools or gambling junkies.

ebay you *win* an item by gambling your next *bid* .

Gambling Junkies.

Addicts.

In rehab, they warned us that cross addiction
is possible .. the inner mind has been to use to being rewarded
with your chosen fix, there is a period or opportunity
that an alternate subsitute can return you to your old
patterns,

Take a puff of dope, bang. Your back drinking.
Given up crack ? have drink and your be crack whore again,

I canceled my ebay account.

Went to a meeting a shared my findings.
Everyone said "Ya .. something like that happened too"

Like the Gentlemen said..it's all part of the ISM. And it has
everything to do with staying away from the first drink. though maybe
not for long. If your like me and drank for many yrs. before finally
putting it down, One day at a time then something must fill that
void..wwhether it be healthy or not. I drank to change the way I was
feeling. Feelings Sucked!!! So many times in order to change the way i
was feeling I would go shoppng. or maybe I'd pick up a hooker, or
gamble..it dosnt matter. I didnt like the way I was feeling so I chose
"unhealthy activities" to change the way I was feeling. In the case of
the spending I couldnt always afford to spend,or bought things I really
didnt need. The problem is... It didnt work any better then the
drinking did anymore. I still wound up feeling shitty about myself,
Shame, Guilt, Regret. Broke. And that can bring me closer to a drink.
It wasnt till I hit bottom in sobriety that i truely began to work the
steps..to be aware of my actions and what drove them....That is what a
4th and 10th step is for..to take a personal inventory..why am I doing
these things.??Who am i hurting,who have I hurt. do I hurt my family
when I overspend.
To say that Over shopping is not a lagitamate topic for AA is Wrong.
Whatever will cause me to pick up that first drink IS a lagitamate
topic.
Regardless of what someone in the room thinks. I choose for my own
sobriety what I need to talk about, no one else. later ,chris

"someone in need" <nospamplease@somewhere.com> wrote in message
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> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
I don't really have money to spend than i did when I was drinking but now
i've stopped i eat and i spend more on things for my home but i wouldn't say
my spending is out of control

Darren
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> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
> ones finances?

Gross Drinking Behavior: They begin to drink more heavily and more
often than their friends. "Getting wasted" becomes a habit. When
drunk, they may develop a "big shot" complex, recklessly spending
money, boasting of real and imagined accomplishments, etc.


http://www.nh-dwi.com/caip-222.htm


On Wed, 31 Aug 2005 23:14:29 GMT, "Alco" <darren@dazze.net> wrote:

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>"someone in need" <nospamplease@somewhere.com> wrote in message
>news:kl49h1pdbndmg09s5i2fttvfgootncq72d@4ax.com.. .
>> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
>I don't really have money to spend than i did when I was drinking but now
>i've stopped i eat and i spend more on things for my home but i wouldn't say
>my spending is out of control
>
>Darren
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>> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
>> ones finances?
>

That was never a problem with me.

Darren
"nospam" <nospamplease@somewhere.com> wrote in message
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> Gross Drinking Behavior: They begin to drink more heavily and more
> often than their friends. "Getting wasted" becomes a habit. When
> drunk, they may develop a "big shot" complex, recklessly spending
> money, boasting of real and imagined accomplishments, etc.
>
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> http://www.nh-dwi.com/caip-222.htm
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> On Wed, 31 Aug 2005 23:14:29 GMT, "Alco" <darren@dazze.net> wrote:
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> >"someone in need" <nospamplease@somewhere.com> wrote in message
> >news:kl49h1pdbndmg09s5i2fttvfgootncq72d@4ax.com.. .
> >> Anyone with alcoholism find spending "out of control"?
> >I don't really have money to spend than i did when I was drinking but now
> >i've stopped i eat and i spend more on things for my home but i wouldn't
say
> >my spending is out of control
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> >Darren
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> >> Is it typical to not have a concept of/be able to budget according to
> >> ones finances?
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