Tex,


> " The OP should butt out. I think he's been told that they do not seek
> or want his help and advice."
>
>
> Any truth to that?

Perhaps yes, perhaps no. That's my interpretation of the OP's
post,though. He should just butt out.
The OP may not know any of the relevant facts, he's a co-worker of the
husband of the woman. He shouldn't spend a lot of time gossiping about his
co-worker's wife in the coffee room.
The excuse that she can not enroll in an alcoholism program by order of
the judge is just not credible. Investigating this ridiculous excuse and
throwing it back in his co-worker's face may not be wise. I doubt that the
coworker believed the excuse.

Dave M.