Hank, Just a question for you. Are you in Al-anon? That I believe
would help you. I am a recovering alcoholic,I have been sober for 14
years. I was something like your wife,only I drank whenever it was
available.
Remember,it's not your fault. Your wife has an illness. She is
sick,mentally,and spiritally. My Alanon friends have told me,they had to
take care of theirselves,then some of their mates came along some
didn't,it up to a Higher Power, I choose to call God.
So maybe you could try Al-anon, if not just pray,pray,pray.. I will
for you, Dennis L.