Hank wrote:

> Married 36 years, wife was active and healthy. In last
> couple of years she's slid into heavy drinking late at
> night, when I'm asleep. She'll then nap during the day.
> There is no risk of driving drunk, and with others she's
> sober. She doesn't seem depressed, and still manages the
> family's real estate competently.
>
> We have had no conflict about it. Her comment: "Yes, I
> sometimes drink too much." On a three week cruise she
> drank very little, but once we returned home she was
> back on schedule. Three hours of heavy drinking from
> 1-4AM, sleeping from 1-4PM, then up to make dinner. A
> crazy schedule, difficult life, and I feel terrible
> about it.

Tell her that you are moving out because of her drinking! If she begs
you to come back, make her sign a contract to stop drinking and go to AA
meetings.