Married 36 years, wife was active and healthy. In last
couple of years she's slid into heavy drinking late at
night, when I'm asleep. She'll then nap during the day.
There is no risk of driving drunk, and with others she's
sober. She doesn't seem depressed, and still manages the
family's real estate competently.

We have had no conflict about it. Her comment: "Yes, I
sometimes drink too much." On a three week cruise she
drank very little, but once we returned home she was
back on schedule. Three hours of heavy drinking from
1-4AM, sleeping from 1-4PM, then up to make dinner. A
crazy schedule, difficult life, and I feel terrible
about it.

I have no idea as to what might be done. She doesn't see
a need to do anything at all. We love and respect each
other, but this can ruin a long marriage.

???