Tim Bruening wrote:
>
> Muddle wrote:
>
>> "Tim Bruening" <tsbrueni@pop.dcn.davis.ca.us> wrote in message
>> news:47A02A3E.DD686154@pop.dcn.davis.ca.us...
>>>
>>> DaveB wrote:
>>>
>>>> On Tue, 29 Jan 2008 02:50:44 -0800 (PST), tsbrueni@dcn.davis.ca.us
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Stephanie wrote:
>>>>>> skylashai@gmail.com wrote:
>>>>>> <SNIP>
>>>>>>> I hate alcohol. I don't need it in my life, don't want it. My
>>>>>>> doctor told me I was self-medicating for mild anxiety. I read a lot
>>>>>>> and I know how dangerous it is, how it works, how insidious it is.
>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>> have tried AA twice and left very quickly. I decided I needed help
>>>>>>> but the people at AA were smoking, and around their babies.
>>>>>> "How to Quit Drinking without AA by Jerry Dorsman lists alternates
>>>>>> from
>>>>>> Rational Recovery, SOS to do-it-yourselferism. I am reading it now. It
>>>>>> discusses why some people do not use AA.
>>>>> I am new here too. I have a coworker whose wife is an alcoholic.
>>>>> When she drinks,
>>>>> she turns violent. She recently bit his hand! This has caused the co-
>>>>> worker to
>>>>> consider divorcing her. How do I talk her into quitting?
>>>>
>>>> Quit what biting? Tell him to bite her back.
>>> Quit drinking!
>>>
>> Tim are you serious or is this a joke of yours.
>
> I am seriously asking how you persuade an alcoholic to quit drinking.
>

You don't, unless your disapproval is worse for the alcoholic to take
than any alternative. E.g., for some, having one's family not want to
have anything to do with one is enough of a crisis to inspire getting
help. For others, this isn't enough. Do you think your disapproval of
your friend's wife's drinking will be enough to inspire her? I don't
know your relationship with her, but I kind of doubt it. If you could
convince her that she's about to lose everyone and everything she cares
about, it just might give her a nudge.