Hi:

I've only been in AA a month, and stayed sober the whole time. But I have
some questions that I guess I'll post here because I don't know who or how
to ask at AA. (Also, Robert McGregor, please don't post insulting derogatory
answers like you do to everyone.)

Stupid Question #1:
What is the real job of a sponsor? There is this guy who is my sponsor, but
I don't really understand the relationship very much. He tells me stuff to
do, but some of it, I'm not comfortable doing, such as phoning complete
strangers in AA and introducing myself. I am supposed to check in with him
every few days, but that feels kind of strange to me. Obviously I don't want
to ask him this question.

Stupid Question #2:
What is the purpose of what is called a Home Group? Lots of people are
telling me to join a "Home Group", but I don't understand what that means.
How is that different from just going to meetings? Why do people in this
Home Group want my home phone number?

Stupid Question #3:
How many meetings should I go to? I hear about people going to 90 meetings
in 90 days, and some going to 2 or more meetings a day. I can't do this with
my schedule and my family. Does that mean that AA won't work for me?

Stupid Question #4:
I am craving a drink so badly now, that I even dream about it. Is that
normal? I dreamed about whiskey all night. I would never tell anyone at an
AA meeting about that because they all seem to "get it" with these steps and
stuff. I don't seem to be "getting it" and I don't know why. I've been going
to 3 - 5 meetings a week, and my wife is getting pissed at the time away
from home. But I can't seem to make the connection (to quote Oprah). What am
I missing? This is a harder question for me to articulate, but somehow I
just don't experience what all these other people experience. Does this mean
that I am one of the "poor unfortunates" that they read from "How it Works"
in every meeting?