You should go your seperate way.

Sorry, she is a monster....the drink is the key that unlocks her cage.

Henry

"Nino Barlini" <nospam@earthlink.net> wrote in message
news:XsB1i.9386$Ut6.3307@newsread1.news.pas.earthl ink.net...
> I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. When I first
> met her, I knew she liked to party and drink but didn't think much of it.
> After about six months I started to question her drinking habits and after
> a year I think she might be in the early stages of having a problem.
>
> Here are some of the things that I notice and that make me worry the most:
>
> Once she starts drinking, she can't stop, even if she just goes out to
> have one or two.
>
> When she drinks, she just becomes a different person and turns into a
> monster, big time verbally and physically abusive. The smallest things
> set her off, and she has torn my clothes and broken my stuff as a result.
>
> All her friends are heavy drinkers, and she never does anything that
> normal girls do, like shopping or movies, just gets drunk with her
> friends.
>
> I think she craves alcohol. Says stuff like "I can't wait to get drunk
> tomorrow" or "I'm really in the mood to get drunk right now" and stuff
> along those lines.
>
> Drinks alone, like if she has a bad day.
>
> Drinks to the point where she can't remember what happened during part of
> the night, drinks and drives (has an underage drinking and driving ticket)
> and is generally irresponsible while drunk.
>
> Seems like drinking is always on her mind and she just waits for a chance
> to get drunk.
>
> I tried to talk to her about it tonight and hopefully make her realize
> that she had a problem. Denial and excuses of course. Her excuse is that
> she doesn't drink all the time, maybe just a few times a month now (maybe
> once a week when we first met?). But I tried to explain that it doesn't
> matter how often, just how you behave when you do. Am I correct, and how
> bad do you think she is for a girl in her early twenties?
>
> I really want to help her. She's a wonderful person when she doesn't
> drink, and I don't want to sit around and watch her throw her life away. I
> understand that it's very hard to help someone who doesn't want to help
> themselves, but there must at least be a place to start. I'd appreciate
> any advice I can get.
>