Dreamspinner3 <dreamspinner3@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> Hi Paul. My name is Kim and I am the daughter of two alcoholics and
> am currently married to one who is supposed to be in a treatment
> center tonight. I don't know if he is there or not because they won't
> tell me due to patient confidentiality but I do know he's no longer at
> the hospital that he was in. I am worried about where he because he
> is in no frame of mind right now to be outside of a hospital or
> treatment facility.
>
> Anyway, let me start off by saying I'm sorry you've had to go through
> some terrible experiences with your mother. Please know that it
> isn't your fault or your responsibility; you are not in control of
> your mother, nor will you ever be.
>
> There is no point in trying to understand why an alcoholic
> drinks--they just do and it is because they suffer from a disease.
> They suffer from a terrible compulsion to drink, no matter what. Why
> they suffer from it, no one is certain. There are many theories as to
> why alcoholics drink but no one knows for certain. Many alcoholics
> will tell they don't even know for certain why they do it.
>
> All you can do it take care of yourself and stop trying to control
> your mother's drinking. Nothing you can say or do will make her stop;
> only she can make the decision to stop and she will do it IF and/or
> WHEN she is ready to. The sad fact is she might never stop drinking
> until she dies. There is no way to know what the future holds for
> her, but you can decide what the future holds for yourself.
>
> Focus on yourself, take care of yourself. Step back and let her go
> her own way and let her face the consequences of her choices. That is
> the best way you can help her to see that she has a problem, by not
> doing anything to shield her from the consequences of her drinking.
> That can be a hard thing to do, I know, but it is the only way you can
> really help her. If she ever decides to get help and goes into
> treatment, then you might be able to do other things to support
> her--it all depends on the treatment program and the path she decides
> to take.
>
> On Sat, 19 Nov 2005 19:39:10 +1100, "Paul D" <paul_r_d@iprimus.com.au>
> wrote:
>
> >Hi everyone
> >My name is Paul and I am 20 years old and from Australia. I am so glad I
> >found this group, I now have something to turn to.
> >My mother has been an alcoholic for the last three years. When it first
> >began she tried taking her life four times, two being overdoses on
sleeping
> >pills, the third slashing her wrists, and forth time walking out into on
> >coming traffic. All aided by alcohol. This was all happening when I was
> >17-18 and in my final years of high school. Thought times they were. Two
> >years later on she is still drinking and we continue to have fights. Her
> >father died of a heart attack due to excessive drinking, my aunty has
lost
> >her entire family because of it, so I don't understand why when she is
> >sober, and takes that first sip she doesn't see this. I am glad now I can
> >speak- I can voice my inner feelings.
> >Hope to hear all your stories and experiences too.
> >Paul
> >
>
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> Kim/Dreamspinner3 wrote;

Many alcoholics will tell they don't even know for certain why they do it.

Especially if they are telling the truth..:-)



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