On Mon, 23 Jun 2003 20:23:15 -0500, "rosie readandpost"
<readandpost@REMOVETHISyahoo.com> wrote:

> I can't avoid it because if my husband
>> wants it and if he doesn't get it, my life at this time could be much more difficult.
>>
>> JB

>even though he has offered to stop, many times?

JB is not in need of dealing with her husband's drinking issues. That
seems clear. It's only relevant to her sobriety if she's at risk from
drinking given her husband's actions. Only she can make that
decision, and she's already intimated more than once in this thread
that it's not an issue. Let's not make issues out of non-issues.

For myself, my ex- drank MORE when I quit drinking, and had MORE of
the stuff around her home. Only my own presence there whilst drinking
had restricted what she did when it came to booze. Given a decision
to go to ANY lengths to stay sober, I even avoided grape juice for a
while, so I certainly avoided any bottles in her place. I had no need
to try to control her choices whilst doing so.

It wasn't always easy. But it also wasn't always easy to have to walk
past the booze shelves in the local supermarket whilst doing my
regular grocery shopping. When they say "stay out of wet places", in
my case they're really referring to the supermarket and my own home.
So I had to recover despite a necessity of being in my own "wet
places". And I did. I really have no problem being in bars or liquor
stores at all, because I don't personally associate those places with
alcoholic drinking! So what's my point? Not all AA advice applies to
all AA people. If JB were to need Alanon, I'd say she should go to
Alanon, and not AA, for a problem with hubby's drinking. Given no
such problem, she just needs to focus on her own recovery, do whatever
she must, and let hubby do what he will.

--
Blue Moon