stuart wrote:

> Kai;
>
> Please understand what I am trying to be for you. I am not trying to give
> you concrete advice as to what to do, just some food for thought.
> What I was really trying to be was an ear. It's a little difficult to be a
> good listener when were dealing with this type of communication...
> Mainly my feedback was trying to show you that I've been where your husband
> was at, and what motivated me to change. We are all different in that
> regard.
>
> I really know you will get through this OK....
>
> All the best
>
> Stuart from Edmonton
>
>

I know. That's why I post here and I really do appreciate people's
responses. It makes life seem a little less lonely. I have friends
that I talk to, but mostly they don't understand the dynamic at
work, and freely admit it. And, they are biased in favor of what's
best for me and my happiness - a good thing that. But, they don't
know the other side like people here do.

Today was a good day, for me. He missed work, so I took his
car and got alot of stuff done that I've been missing while my son
has had my car the past three weeks. : ( It was gorgeous
here today. Had lunch with a friend, checked in at the shop
and picked up some dough from a sale, bought a few beads for
a project I'm working on in the evenings, had a cappuccino with
another friend with even more serious goings on than myself at the
moment.

Thanks.

Kai