"Darren" <darren@notathome.net> wrote in message
news:coqre.9079$q46.3288@newsfe1-win.ntli.net...
> At tonights meeting and on many meetings in the past, members stated
> something on the lines that step 9 isn't about quelling your concience but
> making the other person feel better. I don't understand. What has that to
do
> with sobriety? also one member felt bad because he felt good about a
person
> forgiving him... WHAT? If the person who is making amends feels good as
well
> as the person he/she is making amends too then where's the harm? surely if
> you're feeling good and because you are feeling good then thats a good
> thing, yes?
>
> Darren
>
>

Darren,

I sometimes get the results of my actions confused with the purpose. As I
understand the purpose of steps 4 through 9, it is to shape us to better
serve God and the people around us. One of the redeeming virtues of
reaching step 9 and continuing through this point is that sometimes it makes
us feel better also.

"Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and
the people about us."

As to feeling bad because I felt good because I was given a gift which I did
not deserve.....Hmmmmmmm I am with you on this one -- I don't get that
either.

Bobby L