Sheenah <JBcatRB@coldman.com> wrote in message
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> "M$Man" <my_email@none_of_your_goddamn_business.org> wrote in message
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> > "Sheenah" wrote:
> > > I was able to not drink for almost 8 years without
> > > making use of arecovery programme.
> >
> > So what was your silver bullet? Where did you get your support
> structure
> > from? Just family and friends? Was it just a will power thing? How did
> you
> > cope when something hit a trigger?
>
> Willpower. All the time I was not drinking, my husband continued
> drinking at home. Also, when visitors came or we went out, if it was an
> occasion when we normally would be drinking everyone except me did so.
> When something hit the trigger it was very much more difficult for me to
> not drink. I could get irritable, short-tempered and tearful, be unable
> to settle or to concentrate on anything except the thought that I must
> not drink and feel frustrated and under stress.
>
> When I started to drink again I had the idea that having been not
> drinking for almost eight years I had proved myself well able to control
> my drinking "when I wanted to" and this led to me thinking that if I
> started to drink again I 'd find it easy to control how much I drank.
> The day I decided to drink again, I planned to have only one glass of
> wine. Instead, I started with a large coffee mug of wine half of which
> I drank in secret before taking my husband his glass of wine. Shortly
> after giving him his drink, I went back to where I had left the remains
> of my drink, finished it and immediately refilled my mug. That evening
> I drank the best part of a full bottle of wine. Ten months of daily
> drinking later, I became again ready to decide to quit drinking and did
> so.
>
> Today, I have just over 2 years of not drinking under my belt. In these
> 2 years I have found opinions about what alcoholism is and suggestions
> about how it can be managed that have come to make sense to me.
>
> I got exposed to these opinions and suggestions as a result of mixing
> with alcoholics, most of whom had at least a year of not drinking under
> their belt. From them I came to first have thoughts about what seemed
> to work for them and then came to think it could do me no harm to try
> doing what those who had the kind of sobriety I hoped to one day have,
> had been doing done. So I did. Now, from personal experience, I know
> that what seemed to work for those who once gave me cause to think I
> ought to do what they've been doing, has to date also worked for me.
> Which is good :^)
>
> Sheenah

Thanks for the ideas Sheenah. It's all good.
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