Angel:

You MUST accept that there is little that YOU can do to help him. He, as has
been noted by others here, has to Want help himself. I didn't WANT help
until my wife left me. That woke me up and triggered the desire to seek
help. I got that help via a treatment center and Alcoholics Anonymous that
taught me that I had to work at sobriety. I worked at it and it worked just
fine for 14 years.

Oh yes, my wife and I are happier today than ever.
nat

>I really don't think that leaving him will make anything better. We love
> each other, and he might get worse if I do leave him. Just because he has
> an alcohol problem isn't a reason to leave. What he needs is for me to
> support him through it.
>