here in wisconsin, a GUARDIAN AD LIDUM (lawyer)is appointed to represent the children, in ALL custody disputes.
they will be able to help you "prove" that you are making progress in your recovery, and are "fit".
you both will be examined by social workers etc.

another approach?

just stay sober, work the steps, and wait!


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"Anna Thema" <anna_thema@simcity.com> wrote in message news:vi2j8etopdnebd@corp.supernews.com...
> I have worked very hard over the last 6 months to clean myself up, having
> gone through detox twice and been in and out of the program at least that
> many times. During the same period of time, my (soon-to-be-ex)wife has
> worked very hard to convince the legal eagles here that I am an unfit
> parent, a danger to our child, incapable of keeping a house, etc.
>
> I am now working to face each day as it comes, and its going pretty good.
> My good days are OK, my bad days tolerable. This time I am determined to
> regain the life I once had. I am not drinking, and now that I have a decent
> foothold, it seems to become easier each day to stay not drinking.
>
> I need some help from you folks, however. My problem is that in order to
> regain the 50% custody arrangement I once shared with my wife, I need to be
> able to demonstrate that I am "sober and drug-free, and am capable of
> maintaining control over my drinking problem". This is the legal problem I
> face.
>
> Now, I can keep a personal log of meetings I attend, record when I speak
> with my sponsor, get certificates of completion from detox and treatment
> centres I attend. But how on earth does one demonstrate to a judge and an
> ex-wife that I am sober, and not at risk to drink? Seems like an impossible
> task.
>
> I should add that I have never been a danger to my child, never drove drunk
> while my child was in the car, and never neglected my child. I do accept
> responsiblility for drinking while my child was in my care, and I know its
> something I should not have done or be doing, because the potential for
> problems in an emergency is there.
>
> So, does anyone have any ideas on how I could demonstrate a sober lifestyle,
> and show that I "have control over my drinking problem"?
>
> HYAW,
>
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